Dear Men: On International Men's Day Be Grateful to Women
I figured, since it's your day, men, you can spend some time today being grateful to women.
It's International Men's Day. I mean, never mind that every single day is Men's Day. Men have ruled the world ever since we evolved, and have kept women down at every turn. Men have silenced women throughout history. We are still feeling the effects of that silencing. Men are consistently paid more for less work; men have agency over their own bodies the world over; men are not fighting to be valued and witnessed the way women still are.
So I figured, since it's your day, you can spend some time today being grateful to women. After all, without women, you wouldn't even be alive. Your mother carried you inside her womb and nourished you for nine months, after which she laboured to bring you into the world. A mother's love is the most selfless love that there is, and it is a woman's love. It's because of women that you even exist, so, men, it's time to acknowledge that and celebrate it.
Speaking of women, for all you cishet men out there in relationships with women or craving relationships with women, it's a pretty basic thing when I say that you should be grateful to the women who choose to be in a relationship with you. Nobody's perfect, but being in love with - and being loved by - a woman comes pretty damn close. Love and sex are two more reasons for you to put the gratitude hat on.
Toxic masculinity, or an adherence to traditional male gender roles, deprives men of the space and the freedom to express their emotions freely with each other. Toxic masculinity causes untold harm to societies the world over, and to men themselves. But when men are around women, they are better able to express themselves to each other because women provide balance to the conversation, giving men a safe space to communicate with each other openly.
Women are more compassionate than men, according to the Dalai Lama, and are more capable of being empathetic to others. It's not just something we say; we evolved this way. So it stands to reason that we teach you men to be more empathetic and compassionate.
In conversation with a friend about this article, he pointed out that many men only go to the doctor at the urging of a woman. So women don't just give you life, they sustain life. Women care enough to nag at you to go to the doctor, which enables you to find out what's wrong with you (if anything) and seek treatment (hopefully).
So life, love, companionship, communication, and everything that's right with the world. Do you need more reasons to be grateful to women? We didn't think so.
Happy Men's Day.